5 techniques to stop being nervous with girls

a guy being nervous with girls

You meet this girl every day, and yet, each time you find yourself in front of her, your nervousness takes you into a hellish whirlwind.

The only solution you find to no longer suffer this fear is to rub shoulders with this girl for as little time as possible and to run away from her, while you like her!

But do you really think that it is by behaving like this that you will succeed in seducing the women you like (and who make you nervous at the moment)?

Instead of adopting this false escape solution, discover instead the 5 techniques to stop being nervous with girls.

I know that being very nervous with girls handicaps you in your relationships.

Stress is toxic not only to you, but also to your loved ones.

Women are emotional sponges. Humans in general: we pick up on the emotions of others.

If you’re nervous, girls will sense your stress and won’t be attracted to you. Worse, they won’t want to spend time with you.

Because yes, nervousness demonstrates a lack of self-confidence. And unfortunately for you, insecure men are not attractive…

But don’t worry, if you apply these 5 techniques, you will become less nervous with girls.

1/ Silence the voices in your head

“What will she think of me? I’m not up to it… What can I tell him? She is really too beautiful for me… I don’t know what to say to her…”.

All these thoughts probably come to mind when you are in the presence of a girl you like.

The problem is that these thoughts interfere with you and prevent you from living in the present moment.

So you absolutely have to silence those voices in your head if you want to stop being nervous around girls.

To make these thoughts disappear, I suggest the following exercise.

Put a rubber band around your wrist (as if it were a bracelet), and snap it against your wrist whenever those voices come back.

Certainly it will make a little stain in your style of dress, but it will be effective.

And it will always be a talking point when women ask you why you have that rubber band around your wrist!

On the other hand, avoid snapping it when everyone is watching you. You might come across as a really weird guy.

This rubber band should only be useful to you in the short term. Once you get over your nervousness, you won’t need it anymore.

Personally, I replaced it with a nice watch!

2/ Calm your body language

You probably already know this, but when you speak, the messages you transmit are largely interpreted by your interlocutor via your non-verbal language.

Form trumps content when speaking.

Your body language is therefore extremely important when you want to seduce.

Because yes, body language is the number 1 criterion on which a girl will detect that you are nervous and not very confident in yourself.

When you are nervous, your hands move quickly, your gaze shifts, you speak (too) quickly, you sweat more, your voice is weak…

It’s all down to the adrenaline that runs through your veins when you’re in the presence of pretty creatures that impress you.

Basically, the purpose of adrenaline is to make you run away or fight to survive.

Well here, unless the women you date are dangerous psychopaths, you have no reason to run or fight!

So as soon as you feel the stress rising, breathe calmly and deeply, then try to adopt seductive body language.

Slow down your hand movements, force yourself to look girls in the eye, speak with your stomach, not your throat.

As the Americans say: “Fake it until you make it”.

Adopt the body language of a non-nervous person in the presence of women, until it becomes natural for you and you adopt it without realizing it.

Go back to the old models: James Bond, Don Draper, it should help you keep your calm and develop your charisma.

3/ Use autosuggestion

Autosuggestion is simply self-hypnosis.

It may seem a little weird or even scary to you, yet autosuggestion is a very powerful tool to train your brain through your unconscious.

For Freud, for example, all your behaviors and thoughts (your consciousness) stem from your unconsciousness.

To act on your conscience, you must first act on your unconsciousness.

But don’t worry, it’s very easy to act on your unconscious with autosuggestion.

This tool, on the other hand, will require you time and rigour.

Every morning repeat these sentences to yourself in front of your mirror:

I am totally relaxed in the presence of women.
I’m comfortable talking to pretty girls.
I love being around pretty girls.
I have confidence in myself.
I am attractive.
By dint of repetition, these sentences will be engraved in your unconscious and then will manifest themselves in your behavior (your conscience).

Ultimately, these simple phrases will improve your self-confidence.

Autosuggestion is a medium to long-term job, but it’s a really powerful tool if you want to stop being nervous with girls.

4/ Force yourself to meet women who attract you

For you to quickly stop being nervous with girls, you need to meet them as much as possible and as quickly as possible.

You have to get used to their presence.

It is by confronting yourself with this fear that you will overcome it.

If you persist in fleeing or hiding behind this anxiety, you will never be able to recover from this nervousness.

Think about your first dip in a swimming pool. Your first jumps were probably stressful.

Then after many somersaults in the water, it was good: your fear was gone.

It’s exactly the same with women.

It is by forcing yourself to be around women who attract you that you will overcome your fear.

Here are some ideas for activities to confront you with women: yoga, dance classes, theater, cooking classes…

Jump into the deep end now!
This advice is the application of desensitization, applied to women.

You realize ? Is it like you’re allergic to pretty girls? You need to change that!

5/ Approach women

This step is the top step of the previous technique.

It requires courage, and unlike technique , you must be totally active here.

Approaching women is a bit like the end-of-level boss to overcome your nervousness.

Because yes, approaching a girl you don’t know takes you out of your comfort zone.

But when you have approached many girls, you will be used to it and your fear will be history.

But don’t be hotheaded.

For your first encounter, do not tell a young lady that you find her sublime and that you want her number.

Step by step. You’ll get there soon don’t worry.

But in the meantime, start with simpler and less stressful boardings.

For example, go ask a customer in which department an item is located, ask for directions, ask a saleswoman for advice…

It is by forging that one becomes a blacksmith. So don’t wait and go for it!

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