In today’s era, many women wonder where the alpha males have gone. It didn’t take long for them to realize that there were fewer and fewer of them!
And I know that by saying this, I expose myself to the wrath of the dissatisfied and of certain men who could say: “rather than complaining about the passivity of men, women should themselves make the choice to be less passive”.
But that’s exactly what we do and we’re tired of doing it all the time! If certain things, traits, and behaviors appeal to us more than others, we can’t help it.
And I’m not the only one who’s had enough of passive men! We are much in the same case. A lot of people are attracted by what are called, somewhat vulgarly I grant you, alpha males: active men!
Women who dream of men who have self-confidence, take initiatives and take the reins. We dream of men knowing what they want and doing everything they can to get it.
But unfortunately, these men seem to have – almost – disappeared from the face of the earth and we are only too sad.
Why have men become so passive? Maybe because they have too many options, too many choices and therefore they no longer know how to appreciate what they have, even having hit the jackpot.
Clearly, meeting someone is much more difficult today than it could have been for our parents’ generation. Smartphones and the growing rise of dating apps have simply overwhelmed people with information and possibilities…Enough is enough!
1. It’s never too late to turn back!
Even if you have so far been passive in your love life, it is not too late. Show a little more initiative and have confidence in yourself, women will notice it very quickly and without a doubt.
They will be impressed and if you have a lover, this one will be delighted. She will be thrilled to see you put plans in place and ask her out. You left everything in control a little too long!
My years of experience have proven to me that the more active a man is, the more I like him. It’s very simple: when a woman likes a boy, she wants to spend her weekend with him, but if on Friday you haven’t decided anything yet (perhaps in the hope that she does) , she might be a little disappointed.
While if you plan something, a little in advance, she will see it as a sign of your self-confidence, your determination and your maturity… And then, she will find it incredibly sexy.
It’s as easy as dedicating a minute each day to asking her how she’s doing, planning weekend getaways, or initiating a date.
In short, if you have shown yourself to be passive in your court of love and she has nevertheless shown patience and understanding, it is not too late to go back and show her – truly – your desire to be with her. she. Especially since you certainly would not like her to get bored too quickly.
2. Make it a priority (and not an option): you will be surprised at the consequences of such behavior!
And it makes so much sense… If a woman feels like one of your priorities, your relationships will improve in every way (emotionally, sexually, etc.).
Your relationship will in fact be more spontaneous and that can only be good. The well-being of a couple stems above all from the confidence and the feeling of security that each one feels. If a woman feels confident and secure with you (rather than constantly wondering if she’s just a hooker), she’ll get more confidence out of it.
And you know what that means? That she will be a better companion and a better lover, among other things.
If you manage to show her that she is more than just one conquest among many others, she will be able to open up more easily. She will be able to reveal herself and make you discover what she is deep down.
But unfortunately, if you are passive and fail to take initiative, it will be totally impossible for him to feel safe and confident.
3. Try harder and she will prefer you to all the other men in the world!
If you are just starting to date and she has other options, she will have to make a choice. Before there are feelings of love, a woman will tend to prefer a man who makes efforts for his relationship and to allow him to progress.
While a man who is passive or lazy will certainly be the first to be sidelined.
Generally, women are attracted to men who run after them, take charge and make plans. And this especially at the beginning of a relationship, when your partner is trying to form a first impression of you.
4. In a couple, if both partners are passive, it can’t work!
Take a passive man and put him with a passive woman, disaster is guaranteed.
Gentlemen, if your partner is shy and reserved, it’s simply because you’re not making the first move and because you don’t seem to be in such a hurry to make an effort. If she’s shy and you’re passive, you won’t get far.
Two minutes are not a plus! If you take the first step and take the reins, I assure you that your beloved will gain self-confidence.
And then, your relationship has to move forward, which is impossible to do if you both remain passive.
5. If you like a woman, you have to make things happen!
Gentlemen, do you know what will happen if you decide to put two weeks between your second and your third date?
… Nothing good !
Likewise, if you go three or four days without texting the woman you like, nothing good will come of it.
No, it’s not “cool” to play the inaccessible guys… It’s a cliché and a bad one! We are no longer in high school and no woman will be seduced by this type of behavior, quite the contrary.
And believe me, if you continue to be lazy, an alpha male will soon show up and steal your sweetheart. But remember, it’s never too late to turn back – but do it while you still have a chance.